While I was working as a Christian counselor, I developed a “Basic Need Chart” to help myself and struggling Christians identify which basic need we were not allowing God to fulfill by unwittingly believing in the world’s view point of how to meet that particular need. Many of these verses recorded below I have known for years, but at the moment of my trial they seemed to be overlooked or forgotten. Peter addresses this same point in “2 Peter”. He reminds his readers five times in the first chapter to remember God’s truth: 2 Pe 1:9 has forgotten; 2 Pe 1:12 always remind you even though you know them; 2 Pe 1:13 to refresh your memory; 2 Pe 1:15 will always be able to remember these things; 2 Pe 1:19 do well to pay attention to it (Word).
Fear and anxiety is usually experienced when the need for Security is not being met, whereas peace is the positive fruit of trusting God for this need.
Alienation and rejection are common feelings when the need for Belonging is not met whereas love is a good indicator that you are walking in God’s will.
With the Significance need we can go to either end of the spectrum with our Identity. We can be puffed up, proud and arrogant or go to the other extreme and feel shame and low self worth, whereas believing God’s Word gives us a proper balance of true worth. The world bases results as the indicator of how successful we have performed or not, but God says it is our effort and motives which are important.
The last need of Fulfillment can leave us empty and frustrated if we are not following God’s divine purpose and we fail to relinquish the need to control circumstances, others and God. As we walk in God’s truth we will experience contentment and joy in regards to the need for Fulfillment.
S E C U R I T Y
Physical Health: body
Problem- feeling anxiety or fear due to ill health
Solution- renew your mind by building up your spirit man through the promises in the Word; persevere by focusing on Jesus; be occupied with the eternal, not the temporal Pr 18:14; Ro 12:12; Heb 12:2; 2 Co 4:16,17,18; 2 Co 12:7,8,9,10
Psychological Health: mind
Problem- worrying about the things in your life Mt 13:22
Solution- submit to God; trust in his truth unwaveringly; ponder on positive things Mt 11:28,29,30; Isa 26:3; Jn 8:31,32; Php 4:6,7,8
Social Health: relationships
Problem- bitterness or resentment towards others
Solution- forgive others as God has forgiven you; be a peacemaker Col 3:13; Mt 18:15,16,17; Eph 4:26,29; Pr 15:1; Ro 12:17,18,19,20,21; Php 2:4
Result- harmony; restoration
Spiritual Health: personal
Problem- apathy; lack of motivation to seek God
Solution- study and apply God’s truth Ro 10:17; Mt 4:4; Mt 7:24; Ps 1:1,2,3; Pr 1:1,2,3,4,5,6,7; 2 Ti 2:15; 2 Ti 3:16; Jas 1:22
Result- passion for God Lk 24:32
Physical Provision: food/shelter
Problem- anxiety due to lack of sustenance
Solution- seek God; believe his promises; follow his righteous ways Mt 6:25,26,27,28,29,30,31,32,33,34; Ps 37:25; Php 4:6,7,8,9,13,19
Result- provision and peace
Psychological Provision: sins
Problem- guilt from the sins we commit
Solution- claim the truth that you are forgiven; thank God for his provision; repent by walking in the light 1 Jn 1:7,8,9; Ac 3:19; Isa 1:18; Col 1:13,14; Ps 103:12; Eph 1:7; Col 2:13; Heb 10:17
Result- peace; freedom from guilt; intimate fellowship with God
Social Provision: injustices
Problem- anger from an injustice
Solution- accept God’s sovereignty Ro 8:28; Ro 12:17,18,19,20,21; Mt 5:38,39,40,41,42; Ecc 3:8
Result- peace; contentment
Spiritual Provision: eternal life
Problem- fear of death and the unknown future; fear of future judgment
Solution- trust in God’s saving provision Jn 3:16; 1 Jn 5:11,12,13; 2 Co 5:17
Result- peace with God; peace of God
B E L O N G I N G
Physical Intimacy: touch
Problem- feeling unloved and lonely
Solution- give and accept appropriate physical affection; 1 Co 7:1,2,3,4,5,9; Lk 7:44,45,46; Lk 15:20; Ro 16:16
Develop self-control ie) when these negative feelings are overpowering, read the following verses that reinforces the fact that God loves you and though you are craving human touch, God’s spiritual touch can be more soothing. Ro 5:7,8; Jn 15:13,14; Zep 3:17; Ro 8:37,38,39; Isa 49:15,16
Result- sense of belonging; feeling loved
Psychological Intimacy: to be heard express my innermost thoughts
Problem- wanting to be heard and understood feeling unloved
Solution- talk to God in prayer expressing these innermost thoughts Ps 55:1,2; Ps56:5; Ps 42:9,10; Ps 22:1,2
Result- feeling God does love and care about me
Social Intimacy: to belong fellowship with spouse/believers
Problem- feeling alone; that I do not belong
Solution- make an effort with spouse and believers to encourage and listen to them Heb 10:24,25; Ac 2:42,43,44,45,46,47; Phm 1:17; Gal 6:10; Ruth 1:16; Ecc 4:9,10,11,12
Result- feeling a sense of belonging; respected and loved
Spiritual Intimacy: commune fellowship with God
Problem- feeling alienated from God
Solution- repent of any sins that have alienated you from God; draw near to Him in prayer and in reading His Word. Rev 3:20; Jas 4:8; Eph 1:17; Eph 3:16,17,18,19; 1 Th 5:17; Lk 6:12
Result- feeling God’s love and intimacy
Physical Acceptance: image
Problem- I do not accept my physical make-up; shamed of my appearance
Solution- Believe what God says about me; the inside beauty is what counts Ps 139:14; Eph 5:28,29; 1 Sa 16:7; 1 Pe 3:3,4
Result- I accept the way I look and thank God for His creating me just the way He did.
Psychological Acceptance: personality
Problem- I don’t like who I am on the inside; guilt
Solution- Build a godly character by reading and obeying God’s Word. 1 Co 12:14,15,16,17,18; Pr 27:19; Jn 14:21; 2 Pe 1:3,4,5,6,7,8
Result- I accept who I am on the inside.
Social Acceptance: respect
Problem- I feel disregarded; unimportant
Solution- Believe that I am accepted and important as a member in the body of Christ Gal 3:26,27,28; Ro 15:7; Jas 2:1
Result- I feel accepted; I desire to work as a member in the body of Christ
Spiritual Acceptance: through Son
Problem- I feel unworthy of God; God would never accept me.
Solution- Receive the Son and belief God’s testimony concerning me. Jn 3:16; Jn 1:12; Ro 15:7; Heb 13:5
Result- I know I am accepted in Christ.
S I G N I F I C A N C E
Physical Identity: race/sex/attractiveness/abilities
Problem- I feel physically Gen 3:19 inferiority or superiority compared to others. I cannot change my race or sex and my attractiveness and abilities will diminish over time.
Psychological Identity: intelligence/skills/talent
Problem- I feel psychologically inferiority or superiority Ro 12:3 compared to others. I cannot take credit for my intelligence or skills and talent that I have inherited at birth 1 Co 4:7 and these can diminish with age or disease.
Social Identity: titles/positions/popularity/ancestry
Problem- I feel socially inferiority or superiority compared to others. Titles, positions and popularity can change overnight and my ancestry can be re-evaluated for better or worse in time. Jas 2:1,2,3,4; 1 Co 12:21,22,23,24,25,26,27
Spiritual Identity: proper self-esteem
Solution- Receive Christ to become a child of God Jn 1:12; Gal 4:4,5,6,7; 1 Pe 1:18,19; Gen 1:26,27,28,31; 2 Co 5:17
I base my identity on something that cannot change and does not make me feel superior or inferior to others.
Result- I have a proper understanding of my identity. I am a sinner Ro 3:23, yet through God’s grace Ro 3:24, He has declared me righteous Ro 3:22 and accepted me into His family because of my faith in His Son Ro 5:1.
P E R F O R M A N C E
Physical Performance: self-discipline
Problem- guilt if I did not perform up to my full ability
Solution- give my best effort at all times for God; keep my body healthy 1 Co 9:24,25,26,27; 1 Co 6:19,20; Ro 12:1; Col 3:17,23; 1 Co 10:31
Result- I will have a clear conscience that I did all that I could.
Psychological Performance: results vs effort
Problem- disappointment if the result is not favourable.
Solution- recognize that I have control over my efforts but God has control over the result Pr 16:33 so I must focus my energy on effort not results Heb 11:35,36,37,38,39; 2 Co 11:23,24,25,26,27,28,29,30; Col 3:23; 1 Co 4:5
Result- I am content in all that I do regardless if the activity was successful.
Social Performance: comparing
Problem- I feel inferior or superior compared to others.
Solution- do not compare with others; judge your performance by your past efforts Gal 6:3,4; 2 Co 10:12; Gen 4:4,5,6,7,8; Ac 4:36,37,5:1,5:2
Spiritual Performance: reward
Problem- shame/anger not living up to God’s standards
Solution- do what God has asked but focus on effort not on results or others Gen 4:6,7; Jn 21:21,22; 1 Ti 4:8; Col 3:23,24
Result- God will reward me justly. 2 Co 10:18; Mk 9:41; Heb 6:10; 1 Co 3:12,13,14,15; Pr 16:2
P U R P O S E
Physical Task: merit
Problem- guilt from selfish living
Solution- use body for God’s pleasure not my pleasures Gal 2:20; Ro 6:6,7,8,9,10,11; Gal 5:16,17,18; 1 Co 10:23,24; 1 Co 10:31
Result- joy from doing what pleases God
Psychological Task: motive
Problem- guilt from having impure motives
Solution- fill my mind with God’s values not the world’s Pr 16:3; Php 4:13; Col 2:4
Result- joy and contentment
Social Task: teamwork
Problem- jealousy; competing against others
Solution- submit to one another and work together for God’s glory Eph 5:21; Heb 10:23,24,25; 1 Co 9:16-27; Mt 28:19,20
Spiritual Task promote God’s kingdom
Problem- guilt from promoting self rather than God 2 Ti 2:4
Solution- evangelize, disciple and build up the body of Christ 2 Ti 2:20,21; Jn 10:3,4,5; Ps 32:8; Mt 28:19,20; 1 Th 5:11
Result- joy; you will have God’s approval
Physical Obedience: flesh vs spirit
Problem- guilt from disobedience
Solution- let my spirit rule my flesh Gal 2:20; Ro 6:6,7,8,9,10,11; Gal 5:16,17,18
Result- contentment and joy
Psychological Obedience: Satan vs Holy Spirit
Problem- guilt for listening to Satan rather than the Holy Spirit
Solution- let my mind obey God’s truth not Satan’s lies. Pr 16:3; Php 4:13; Gal 5:16,17,18
Social Obedience: relationships
Problem- rebellious spirit; pride, wanting my way
Solution- submit to ordained authority Ro 13:1,2,3,4,5,6,7; 1 Pe 2:13,14,15,16,17,18,19,20,21; Heb 13:17; Heb 10:23,24,25;1 Co 9:16,27; Mt 28:19,20
Spiritual Obedience: self vs God
Problem- guilt for my disobedience to God
Solution- repent and be dependent upon God Jn 10:3,4,:5; Ps 32:8
Result- peace with God; peace of God